What is Tiya-Tiya and why does it pose a challenge?

Gossip and negative discussions create osogbo.

In general religious teachings it is advised not to talk openly or excessively about osogbo, as doing so could inadvertently manifest it. Osogbo represents the antithesis of blessings, manifesting as various forms of obstacles, problems and difficulties that hinder our fulfillment. Many religious rituals, such as offering ebo, aim to alleviate, appease or eliminate osogbo from our lives. Divination guidance often instructs us on how to prevent osogbo by taking specific precautions and avoiding certain behaviors or situations.

While I agree with the warning not to talk about osogbo, I have recently been contemplating how our world seems increasingly affected by a type of osogbo we refer to as tiya-tiya. This worries me because once tiya-tiya takes hold, it can perpetuate itself and spread like a contagion, leading to a spiritual epidemic.

Tiya-tiya is linked to gossip, negative speech and verbal conflict. It divides people into factions, fosters animosity and fuels social discord. This phenomenon can occur in various spheres of human interaction, whether between family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, political factions or religious communities. It goes beyond mere dissatisfaction with circumstances or the expression of frustration, such as with the challenges posed by current events reported in the media. Tiya-tiya is more harmful and subtle than venting; It involves deliberate efforts to undermine, damage, or tarnish the reputations of others. It has a purpose and spreads in ways designed to cause harm.

Social media often serves as a fertile environment for tiya-tiya to thrive.

Social media has contributed to the proliferation of an argumentative culture, facilitated by platforms such as Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and others that allow people to reach and influence broad audiences. We have become accustomed to seeing political figures verbally attack each other on television and online. Disputes between celebrities fill the pages of magazines and entertainment programs, while reality shows have turned arguments and conflicts into spectator sports. Over time, we have come to accept this behavior as normal, even when we personally disapprove of it.

When these behaviors are reflected in our own lives and social circles, they can provoke strong emotional reactions. We can internalize negative conversations and inadvertently spread them through our own posts, messages, texts, and discussions. Tiya-tiya can therefore take on a life of its own and affect people who were not initially involved in the triggering event described in the original post.

What are the obstacles caused by tiya-tiya?

Tiya-tiya is considered osogbo due to its destructive nature and its hindrance to our spiritual growth. How can we focus on cultivating our own character when we are worried about tearing others down? Engaging in negative conversations, gossip, and conflict drains our time and energy without benefiting us. Instead of promoting peace of mind and tranquility, these actions disturb our inner peace.

As devotees of the Orishas, ​​we are reminded of the importance of maintaining composure, choosing our words wisely, and embodying a kind character. The Orishas will intervene in conflicts if necessary, but should we engage in infighting among ourselves? What do we gain from such discord? While there are times when we need to speak up and take a firm stand against wrongdoing, tiya-tiya is not the solution. It only exacerbates conflicts and makes situations worse.

Negative speech alienates people. Recently, I have heard many people express their withdrawal from religious forums and groups due to ongoing internal disputes. They refrain from publishing to avoid being attacked or misunderstood. People are nervous and read between the lines of every post for possible pitfalls and ulterior motives. This atmosphere of mistrust and apprehension diminishes productive and constructive conversations within our community.

While I don't have all the answers to eliminating tiya-tiya from the world, personally, I am committed to keeping it out of my life. I encourage others to do the same. In these tumultuous times, I hope and pray that everyone gets through them with minimal damage and trauma. May the blessings of Olodumare and the Orishas illuminate our paths and remove the obstacles from our journey.